Showing posts with label parent/child. Show all posts
Showing posts with label parent/child. Show all posts
Saturday, May 22, 2010
Not My Daughter
Not My Daughter by Barbara Delinsky
Three bright, college bound teens make a pact to become pregnant and have babies. News of the pact is quickly leaked by one of the friends. The community's anger and disappointment is soon turned on one of the mothers......also the principal of the highschool. The mother having been pregnant herself at seventeen but still making a successful life.
The story drew me in when I wondered, 'What the heck were they thinking?" And then......pft, what they were thinking was never really explained. The girls decided after a summer of babysitting that they, as mature 17 year old girls, could be better mothers than the ones they worked for. Also it seemed so fun to have something of your own. I would like to offer up that a kitten would have been a better choice.
The book had its points. The mothers did question their culpability in the situation, wondering if they had parented wrong. And as far as the book describes, they probably didn't, but it is a question asked by most parents. It was just a foolish pact between the girls. Once the gossip mill started there were some hard times. It described fairly well what it can be like in a small town where your business is everyone elses. The maturity of the girls seemed to be on target. They were ridiculous fools. And even though Delinsky showed this........I was still more than irked. The girls were idiots. They never had a good reason for doing something SO life changing. Beyond the passing mention of adoption or abortion, the options were never really given any creedence. The main teen Lily said more than once that she didn't want the father in the picture because she wanted the baby to be 'hers'. It made me so violently angry that I wanted to poke her in the eye. So self centered and immature I wanted the community to rip her to shreds. By the end.....probably the worst part........the whole package is tied up in a snappy little bow. The babies are all born healthy. All of the parents accept the babies and their daughters. The girls live at home and get taken care of by their parents. I'm not saying that that situation isn't probably true to life at times......I just didn't like it.
Rating 2 Okay, I wanted somewhere in the book to have better options or to show the struggle.....or to at least show someone with enough maturity to say 'hey what's best for the poor baby?'.
Rating PG 13 Teen pregnancy, subject of abortion, sex between an unmarried adult couple, teen sex
Labels:
Barbara Delinsky,
pact,
parent/child,
parenting,
teen,
teen pregnancy
Thursday, May 20, 2010
The Council of Dads
The Council of Dads by Bruce Feiler
New York Times Best Selling Author Bruce Feiler is known for his books on walking. 'Walking the Bible' even being turned into a PBS documentary. His livelyhood having very much to do with walking. Then an astonishing blow. A cancerous tumor on his femur. Not only could he lose his leg, his ability to walk, his livelyhood, Bruce could lose his life. As the father of 3 year old twins he was heartbroken.
This book is Bruce's attempt at making a safety net if he should succumb to the cancer. He gathered men representing stages of his life and characteristics that he wanted his girls to know about him if he could not be with them. Fantastic idea.
I found myself interested more in the medical aspect of the book and his day to day life with his wife and children. The Council of Dads was a great idea and the men had wonderful ideas about what they would do and say for the girls. But somehow I found myself not wanting to have anything to do with the council. Bruce seemed like a great father. I resented the fact that he might die and leave his wife and daughters. I didn't want him to die and I didn't like that he was making any kind of arrangements should events turn in that direction. I'm not saying he shouldn't have because as a good father he was doing something awesome for his daughter's future. I just didn't want him to die and I refused to be party to his planning for a dim future......so there.
At one point he and his wife go to visit the place where he will someday be buried. I think this was the saddest part for me. He writes........."Tears were streaming down our cheeks, salt trickling into our mouths. The rain was matting our hair. My crutches tumbled to the ground. And in the darkened cathedral of a Bonaventure thundershower, we clung to each other, pressed our foreheads together, and kissed on the land where we would one day rest forever. "
Rating 4 Great writing, good idea, smart articulate men.
Rating G Clean but a grave situation.
Labels:
autobiographical,
Bruce Feiler,
family life,
illness,
nonfiction,
parent/child,
parenting
Monday, May 17, 2010
The Dead-Tossed Waves
The Dead-Tossed Waves by Carrie Ryan (sequel to The Forest of Hands and Teeth)
Years have passed since Mary left the Forest of Hands and Teeth. She lives at the edge of the ocean, caring for the lighthouse and the beach. Her own daughter, Gabry, is not as daring and adventurous as Mary. Gabry wants nothing more than to be safe and stay in her small seaside town with her new love Catcher.
As many teens are prone to do, Gabry follows her friends outside of the barriers that keep the village safe from the Mudo. When a Breaker attacks the group of friends, turning many into the undead, Gabry flees to the safety inside of the barriers. Catcher is contaminated with a Mudo bite. The ones not 'turned' are captured by the Recruiters and locked up to await punishment for endangering the whole community.
Mary decides it is time to go back to the Forest and reclaim the past she left behind. Gabry, too afraid to follow her mother, stays behind. Gabry wonders why she can't be brave like her mother and adventerous like her friends. When she finds out Catcher is still alive and outside of the barriers, but contaminated with the virus that will turn him into an undead, Gabry tries to find the inner gumption to leave the community and brave the dangers outside of the barriers for the boy she always saw herself loving.
At the beginning of the book I felt a little like I wasn't reading a sequel. The unconsecrated are now called Mudo, meaning 'mute'. The fast Mudo are called Breakers. You turn Breaker if there are not enough Mudo around when you are infected. I didn't feel like these were covered very well. I felt like I walked into the middle of a conversation. Then the more I thought about it, I realized that this was many years after the first book and it took place in a society that knew more about the zombies.
I would have like to delve into the reason for the zombies and how the rest of the new civilization worked. I do however LOVE this author's writing style and the way she puts the words together. She uses very descriptive words in a way that I would not think to put them together, but then somehow you understand exactly what she was trying to evoke.
I am pretty sure that I marked a lot of quotes but now that I am looking at my markers I see that my kidlets have pulled most of them out:(
"His words cut into me, his desires and dreams mingling with my own, throwning at me everything I've lost. Everything that will never be mine."
Gabry's life strays completely from the narrow path she saw for herself in the future and she miraculously steps onto it with bravery that I don't know if I could muster.
Rating 4 Great, great writing style. I was still interested in the Mudo virus and the society that was built up after the Return, which I didn't get many answers to.
Rating PG No language or sexuality really. Just some sensual kissing and peril.
Years have passed since Mary left the Forest of Hands and Teeth. She lives at the edge of the ocean, caring for the lighthouse and the beach. Her own daughter, Gabry, is not as daring and adventurous as Mary. Gabry wants nothing more than to be safe and stay in her small seaside town with her new love Catcher.
As many teens are prone to do, Gabry follows her friends outside of the barriers that keep the village safe from the Mudo. When a Breaker attacks the group of friends, turning many into the undead, Gabry flees to the safety inside of the barriers. Catcher is contaminated with a Mudo bite. The ones not 'turned' are captured by the Recruiters and locked up to await punishment for endangering the whole community.
Mary decides it is time to go back to the Forest and reclaim the past she left behind. Gabry, too afraid to follow her mother, stays behind. Gabry wonders why she can't be brave like her mother and adventerous like her friends. When she finds out Catcher is still alive and outside of the barriers, but contaminated with the virus that will turn him into an undead, Gabry tries to find the inner gumption to leave the community and brave the dangers outside of the barriers for the boy she always saw herself loving.
At the beginning of the book I felt a little like I wasn't reading a sequel. The unconsecrated are now called Mudo, meaning 'mute'. The fast Mudo are called Breakers. You turn Breaker if there are not enough Mudo around when you are infected. I didn't feel like these were covered very well. I felt like I walked into the middle of a conversation. Then the more I thought about it, I realized that this was many years after the first book and it took place in a society that knew more about the zombies.
I would have like to delve into the reason for the zombies and how the rest of the new civilization worked. I do however LOVE this author's writing style and the way she puts the words together. She uses very descriptive words in a way that I would not think to put them together, but then somehow you understand exactly what she was trying to evoke.
I am pretty sure that I marked a lot of quotes but now that I am looking at my markers I see that my kidlets have pulled most of them out:(
"His words cut into me, his desires and dreams mingling with my own, throwning at me everything I've lost. Everything that will never be mine."
Gabry's life strays completely from the narrow path she saw for herself in the future and she miraculously steps onto it with bravery that I don't know if I could muster.
Rating 4 Great, great writing style. I was still interested in the Mudo virus and the society that was built up after the Return, which I didn't get many answers to.
Rating PG No language or sexuality really. Just some sensual kissing and peril.
Labels:
Carrie Ryan,
dystopia,
love,
parent/child,
series,
Young Adult Fiction,
zombies
Friday, April 16, 2010
The Sugar Queen
The Sugar Queen by Sarah Addison Allen
Josey Cirrini exists in a small town that holds it memories and judgements like iron fetters. Everyone remembers what a beast of a child she was. Everyone knows now that she lives with her harsh elderly mother and does nothing but care for her. Everyone knows she is plump and alone. Josey knows she loves sweets and Adam the mailman, and no one else can know. In a totally bizarre and magical twist, Josey opens her closet one day to find Della Lee......a local waitress. Della Lee refuses to leave the confines of the closet, saying only that she won't be there for long before she moves on. In her rough and caring way, Della Lee helps Josey open up to life. Soon she isn't going to her closet for sweets but to see Della Lee. Josey finds friendship and possibly LOVE?
This book didn't seem that interesting when I heard about it. It came with good recommendations and I did like the author's other book 'Garden Spells'. What do you know? I loved it. I read it lickedy split. The book was magical and a little mysterious. Josey was able to make a friend after years of being alone. Many times I don't like books that lend to a 'sisterly' theme because they tend to cut everyone else out of the picture. This book wasn't like that. The girls met and became a great support to each other right away. There were also some really great quotes in this book. Allen has a beautiful way with words.
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"It feels like he's taken your heart, doesn't it?....Like he's reached in and pulled it out from you. And I bet he smiles like he doesn't know, like he doesn't know he's holding your heart in his hand and you're dying from him."
"You'd be surprised how easy some things can be, things you never thought you'd do, when you take self-restpect out of the equation."
"Sometimes you weren't supposed to share pain. Sometimes it was best just to deal with it alone."
"She'd always known he didn't love her. But it was easier to bear when he didn't know she loved him. That way they were even. Now he knew he had all the power."
Rating PG domestic abuse, an affair, murder, ghosts
Rating 4.5 Only because I probably won't read it again soon, but I loved the magical qualities and Allen's descriptiveness.
Labels:
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ghost story,
love,
magic,
parent/child,
relationships,
Sarah Addison Allen,
women
Sunday, November 29, 2009
The Book Thief
The Book Thief by Markus Zusak
Liesel Meminger is 9 years old when her brother dies, she is given to foster parents, she thieves her first book, she is in Nazi Germany.
"It’s a small story really, about, among other things:
* A girl
* Some words
* An accordionist
* Some fanatical Germans
* A Jewish fist fighter
* And quite a lot of thievery"
I can never do this book justice. The writing was so descriptive it was like eating chocolate lava cake. Every page had something I wish I could commit to memory.
The book is narrated by Death. Death is fantastic. He is truly poetic.......and I loved him. The book was so lovely and destructive that I cried.
There are so many quotes I would rewrite half of the book if I put them all down here.........
"He does something to me, that boy. Every time. It's his only detriment. He steps on my heart. He makes me cry."
"- proof again of the contradictory human being. So much good, so much evil. Just add water."
Liesel Meminger is 9 years old when her brother dies, she is given to foster parents, she thieves her first book, she is in Nazi Germany.
"It’s a small story really, about, among other things:
* A girl
* Some words
* An accordionist
* Some fanatical Germans
* A Jewish fist fighter
* And quite a lot of thievery"
I can never do this book justice. The writing was so descriptive it was like eating chocolate lava cake. Every page had something I wish I could commit to memory.
The book is narrated by Death. Death is fantastic. He is truly poetic.......and I loved him. The book was so lovely and destructive that I cried.
There are so many quotes I would rewrite half of the book if I put them all down here.........
"He does something to me, that boy. Every time. It's his only detriment. He steps on my heart. He makes me cry."
"I could introduce myself properly, but it's not really necessary. You will know me well enough and soon enough, depending on a diverse range of variables. It suffices to say that at some point in time, I will be standing over you, as genially as possible. Your soul will be in my arms. A color will be perched on my shoulder. I will carry you gently away. At that moment, you will be lying there (I rarely find people standing up). You will be caked in your own body. There might be a discovery; a scream will dribble down the air. The only sound I'll hear after that will be my own breathing, and the sound of the smell, of my footsteps."
"The only thing worse than a boy who hates you: a boy that loves you."
"Somewhere, far down, there was an itch in his heart, but he made it a point not to scratch it. He was afraid of what might come leaking out."
Rating 5 There were times when I felt a little anxious and the book felt long but the writing made up for it.
Rating PG 13 Lots of swearing, death, brutality......Nazi Germany.
Labels:
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love,
Markus Zusak,
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wwii
Sunday, November 1, 2009
This Lullaby
This Lullaby by Sarah Dessen
Remy is a bit caustic about love. Her father wrote her a lullaby that turned him into a one hit wonder. The lullaby was the only thing he ever gave her. Her mother is a romance novelist on her fifth marriage.
Remy just graduated from high school and this story is about the summer 'between' before she heads off to Stanford. She has always been the mother in the relationship with her mother. She has always taken care of everything. Remy has always protected herself from love by having a formula by which she picks up a guy and dumps him within a short amount of time. This summer she is ready to have another fling and then head off empty handed to college. Then she meets Dexter. He is a musician that eats in her car, doesn't tie his shoes, make his bed or even have food in the fridge. Dexter is quirky and a much freer spirit than Remy.
I picked this book up determined to hate it. I thought it was going to be like all of the other teen lit that I have seen lately. Way over sexualized and without a point. Well the book was meh. I did not like the constant drinking and smoking. The underage drinking did lead Remy into trouble which was only touched on. Remy was able to acknowledge that she was heading down a bad path because of the way she acted. She was also able to realize that she was wrong about many of the things that she thought. She was willing to change when she learned something about herself.
Rating 3 Not bad. I did like that the character was able to she her errors and change. I also liked that despite what I thought........there wasn't sex.
Rating PG 13 to R Potty potty potty mouth. Underage drinking, smoking and sex. (The sex is not explicit. It is indicated that the character has had many sexual relationships during high school.)
Remy is a bit caustic about love. Her father wrote her a lullaby that turned him into a one hit wonder. The lullaby was the only thing he ever gave her. Her mother is a romance novelist on her fifth marriage.
Remy just graduated from high school and this story is about the summer 'between' before she heads off to Stanford. She has always been the mother in the relationship with her mother. She has always taken care of everything. Remy has always protected herself from love by having a formula by which she picks up a guy and dumps him within a short amount of time. This summer she is ready to have another fling and then head off empty handed to college. Then she meets Dexter. He is a musician that eats in her car, doesn't tie his shoes, make his bed or even have food in the fridge. Dexter is quirky and a much freer spirit than Remy.
I picked this book up determined to hate it. I thought it was going to be like all of the other teen lit that I have seen lately. Way over sexualized and without a point. Well the book was meh. I did not like the constant drinking and smoking. The underage drinking did lead Remy into trouble which was only touched on. Remy was able to acknowledge that she was heading down a bad path because of the way she acted. She was also able to realize that she was wrong about many of the things that she thought. She was willing to change when she learned something about herself.
Rating 3 Not bad. I did like that the character was able to she her errors and change. I also liked that despite what I thought........there wasn't sex.
Rating PG 13 to R Potty potty potty mouth. Underage drinking, smoking and sex. (The sex is not explicit. It is indicated that the character has had many sexual relationships during high school.)
Labels:
parent/child,
relationships,
Sarah Dessen,
Young Adult Fiction
Thursday, October 22, 2009
The Cloud Chamber
The Cloud Chamber by Joyce Maynard
Nate Chance lives on a failing farm in Montana. It is 1966 and he is fourteen. The day that brings his family to its knees started early in the morning as usual. But by the time the school bus returns Nate and his little sister Junie, their lives have been torn at the seams. The police are in the drive way along with an ambulance. Nate's bloody father is being dragged from the fields.
Nate's dad tried to kill himself. The police can't find the gun and soon come back to the Chance farm to accuse Nate's mother of shooting her husband. Nate and Junie are ostricized at school. They are not told anything about their father. They are never taken to see him. Nate's mother is falling apart. The farm has to be auctioned off.
The only thing keeping Nate going is his little sister and a strange Bible Study girl at school. The two teens are partnered up for the science fair. Nate's dad always had big dreams and knew so many wonderful things. Nate decides that he and Naomi will build a cloud chamber just like his dad had always wanted to. The cloud chamber will show radiation from stars long ago exploded.
The story is sweet and unassuming. It illustrates the hard times many families go through and how they are still able to pull through even though things may never be the same.
Rating 3.5 The book was a hair depressing but still an okay read for tweens on up.
Rating PG Attemped suicide
Nate Chance lives on a failing farm in Montana. It is 1966 and he is fourteen. The day that brings his family to its knees started early in the morning as usual. But by the time the school bus returns Nate and his little sister Junie, their lives have been torn at the seams. The police are in the drive way along with an ambulance. Nate's bloody father is being dragged from the fields.
Nate's dad tried to kill himself. The police can't find the gun and soon come back to the Chance farm to accuse Nate's mother of shooting her husband. Nate and Junie are ostricized at school. They are not told anything about their father. They are never taken to see him. Nate's mother is falling apart. The farm has to be auctioned off.
The only thing keeping Nate going is his little sister and a strange Bible Study girl at school. The two teens are partnered up for the science fair. Nate's dad always had big dreams and knew so many wonderful things. Nate decides that he and Naomi will build a cloud chamber just like his dad had always wanted to. The cloud chamber will show radiation from stars long ago exploded.
The story is sweet and unassuming. It illustrates the hard times many families go through and how they are still able to pull through even though things may never be the same.
Rating 3.5 The book was a hair depressing but still an okay read for tweens on up.
Rating PG Attemped suicide
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Sprout is a teen in small town Kansas. His mother is dead. His dad is an alcoholic. He dyes his hair green. He is gay.
Sprout's life begins really changing when one teacher sees his writing potential. She spends a summer coaching him to enter a writing contest. She learns a lot about Sprout. She also falls in love with his quirky alcoholic father. Sprout realizes through his writing that he wants to delve deeper into his sexuality. He has been having a relationship for four years with a boy known to everyone else as a heterosexual and as Sprout's enemy. Then a new boy (Ty) shows up at school. Sprout realizes he wants a boyfriend. He and Ty have a harrowing relationship based on many of their past personal issues.
This book was sweet, random, quirky, sarcastic and eye opening. Sprout broke my little heart in two. I completely fell for him and his struggles.
Rating 3.5 Smart, sweet book. Dopey use of things like BTW. I know.....fits the whole teen thing but still dorky.
Rating R sex, gay sex, swearing, child abuse, alcoholism, death
Labels:
alcoholism,
child abuse,
Dale Peck,
death,
homosexuality,
parent/child,
teen,
Young Adult Fiction
Friday, September 4, 2009
City of Glass (The Mortal Instruments Book Three)
In the conclusion of The Mortal Instruments series, Valentine is ready to take down the wards protecting the shadow hunter city of Alicante. Then he will allow it to be run over by demons in order to force the shadow hunter Clave to agree to his wishes. Valentine wants to create new shadow hunters and destroy the old ones. For this he needs the three mortal instruments.
Jace goes to Alicante with his family to the meeting of he Clave. The Clave has convened to determine how to fight Valentine.
Clary sneaks into the secret city with Luke. She is there to find the warlock that can help her wake her mother from the magically induced coma.
All Hell breaks loose literally and many are wounded and killed as Valentines demon army comes to destroy the city and its inhabitants.
Jace and Clary are able to uncover the secrets that will undo Valentine.
I am still loving this series. Also.....I am so proud of myself!! I actually figured out the twist before it was revealed. My distrust proved to be true. I am so happy. Even though the book ended in a way that I was truly pleased with, I felt like the character romance that I was rooting for had fizzled by the end. Lots of drama leading up to ..........eh okay. It left me wanting.
Rating 5 Yes I had a problem with the ending for Jace and Clary. However I do like that the rest of the events were wrapped up in a way that didn't go ON and ON and ON. Concise is nice. Still super funny and truly entertaining.
Rating PG 13 Death, destruction, demons, language, some heated romance.
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Tuesday, August 18, 2009
To Kill A Mockingbird
It has been ages since I read this book. It was definitely time to pick it up again. I remember liking it but I loved it so much more this time.
Scout and Jem live in Maycomb (a small southern town) in the early 1930's. They are being raised by their father Atticus and their black help Calpurnia. Atticus is a lawyer.
Scout and Jem meet Dill. A boy that moves to Maycomb every summer. They quickly become friends. They spend much of their time fixated on Boo Radley, the mysterious neighbor that never leaves his house and has become legend in their minds. The children make up skits about him, dare each other to enter his yard or peek through his windows. Once in awhile they find small gifts in a hollow tree, which they think are from Boo Radley.
As the years slip away, Scout and Jem are faced with the wrath of the small town as Atticus defends a black man accused of raping a white girl. Jem is turning into a young man and he always looks to Atticus as an example. Atticus tells Jem that defending this man is something he must do in order to live with himself.
As the trial approaches the children are accosted by one time friends and neighbors. Atticus is always wise and forgiving. He makes sure that Jem and Scout do not fight to defend him and do not speak unkindly to their accusers.
The trial plays out with Jem and Scout hiding in the balcony of the courtroom. Jem has a mind for law just like Atticus. He is convinced that the evidence proves Tom (the defendant) innocent of his charges. The jury returns a guilty verdict anyway.......despite everyone seeming to know that Tom is not guilty. Jem is bewildered and crushed. He cannot understand why the people of the town would let the accusation stand.
The father of the alleged rape victim is livid with Atticus for shaming him in court. He threatens to take revenge. Atticus however does not believe his threats will ever come to fruition once the anger ebbs away.
But Mr. Ewell bides his time and attacks Atticus' children on their way home from the Halloween pageant. In a wild turn of events their lives are saved by their legendary neighbor Boo Radley. Making their wildest dreams come true.
I cannot describe the emotions evoked by this book. I can see why it is so popular. As I read, I couldn't make myself understand how anyone could ever believe the things people used to believe about race. This book is so applicable even today, whether it is about race, religion or gender.
Rating 5
Rating PG Despite the accusation of rape it was never graphically described. I would probably read this to my nine year old or let her read it herself. Hard lessons must be learned. Well worth the read.
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Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Standing For Something
This is not a first time read for me. If this book were ever timely when first published, is now extremely timely. President Hinckley lays out the road less traveled. A road that he professes can save humanity if we will all begin the journey in our own lives and homes. Only can we change the world if we start with ourselves.
Although written by the former President of the LDS church, the book is one that should hold great value for all Judeo/Christian sects. Hinckley simply lays out ten virtues that he believes should be our ground work. These virtues may seem to many of us, now lay by the way side in modern society. The ten virtues are love, honesty, morality, civility, learning, forgiveness and mercy, thrift and industry, gratitude, optimism, and finally faith. He goes on to talk of the guardians of these virtues which are marriage and the family. Hinckley has it right when he says that 'we can save our nation by saving our homes'.
Standing for Something is uplifting although it speaks of serious topics and brings to mind our duty to make life better in a time where virtue and morality seem to be quickly fading from our forethought's.
I would recommend this book to anyone whether LDS or not. I didn't feel like any religious sect was at the forefront, only basic Christian principles.
Rating 5 I spent a lot of time underlining thoughts since this was not my first reading.
Rating G
Sunday, June 28, 2009
The Shack
The Shack is a book about more than one story I would say. First there is the story......and then there is the theology. The story intrigued me. I was drawn in by the cover of the book and then I read the back. A child kidnapped and then the father's healing by spending a weekend with God in the 'shack' where the child was held.
I should have known that I wasn't going to love this book like the zillions of other people that read it because......a) zillions of others liked it.........b) I had to put it down when I realized what was happening to the child..........c) zillions of others liked it.
I hate to say that I don't like this book because I feel like it was a truly faithful and heartfelt endeavor by the author. However I do not like this book and would caution against reading it. If you already have a religion.......you are going to be upset by the messed up theology. If you don't, I would hate for you to read this book and think that it held truth.
On the flip side I am happy that this book has touched so many because that means that there are people out there searching for a personal relationship with God. And that relationship can only bring good to their lives.
The story did make some good points. That God, Jesus and The Holy Ghost are three separate people. The are only one in the sense that they basically have the same mind set about everything. Also I did feel like it did a great job of explaining free agency and its vital importance to everything. God explained that He cannot stop people from making choices because if He stopped one choice He would have to stop all choice..........that making everything pointless. He also explained how he does not create 'bad' things but He will use them to His advantage in bringing to pass 'good'. These were great explanations and I hope that any one that reads this book concentrates on these things.
Also I did like the magical quality and the beauty that was described. The 'story' was a good story.
The things that were clearly horrible were the way that Adam was made to seem like he messed up the whole 'plan' by the choice he and Eve made. This is not so. Without choosing to become mortal the 'plan' had no where to go.
Also the Commandments or basically any rule was made to seem foolish. I believe God actually told Mack (the main character) that he did not have to follow any rules. There was a confusing explanation why this was so.
It also seemed like Jesus was the good guy and God was the bad guy. But then the book really never gave Jesus credit for everything he did. Which if you are a Christian means EVERYTHING.
A huge thing for me also was the way that God was portrayed. I did not like the 'character' he was given to play. If that is what God really was I would not have a problem. But it isn't.
There were surely touching and poignant scenes and some great bits of truth but they were so mixed with untruth that I cannot recommend this book.
Rating 2 I wasn't gagging but I also didn't have a very good feeling when I read this. Many of you may now laugh because I admit to reading unsavory things now and then. However they are put out as unsavory.......not as gospel. I cannot give this book a 1 because there were some points made that were really really good. I am mostly certain that I will throw this book away instead of passing it on.
Rating G
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Maybe Baby
Maybe Baby by Tenaya Darlington
The blurb on the front said, "Made me laugh out loud....". I did not laugh out loud. Just so you know I don't think the book was so funny.
Judy and Rusty have three grown children and a depressing life. They come home to beer and T.V. They do not interact. The three children have split and are now estranged from their parents. #1 Henry left to join a rock band. #2 Carson is suspiciously fem and leaves as it is becoming more obvious. #3 Gretchen goes to college, majors in women's studies while her parents presume she is majoring in something else. She is enlightened and breaks off contact with her parents.
Out of the blue, Gretchen calls to say that she is pregnant. She is living with a performance art, long haired, unitard wearing guy named Ray. Ray and Gretchen have joined a community in which the children are raised in a gender neutral manner. When the baby is born, only Ray and Gretchen will know the sex. The baby will be dressed in black. Said baby will have blobs of foam to play with so that he/she will not be repressed or brainwashed by gender expectation. If Judy and Rusty want to have any part in He/She's life, they will cooperate with the parenting theory.
In the beginning I did NOT like the characters. They were sad and living without meaning. Judy and Rusty had parented to the best of their ability and their children hated them for it. The children were experimenting with life at an age where they should have known where they were going.
Ray's parent's, or rather mother and boyfriend seems to be open minded (read.....living a pointless life but in an acceptable manner because they were cooler). Ray still doesn't like them. What is a parent to do? It seems you can never make the kids happy.
By the time baby arrives things are changing. Rusty and Judy have begun to morph into living breathing people with feelings that don't feel gray and black and brown and ugly. They have begun to see the ways that they can change and repent of their past........although their past was only lived without understanding of the damage they were doing. I began to see a bright spot.
The family reunites and love and understanding seem to bloom from the desert of their former lives together. They love each other. Judy and Rusty, even though at an age where most people are set in their ways, are able to make some life altering changes. It was surprising and beautiful. Can it happen for other people? I don't know. But it gives hope that we can all see the importance of family and love and relationships and do what we can to foster them and keep them alive.....even if that means admitting we were wrong to things we didn't know were wrong when they happened.
Rating 4 Didn't realize I was going to like it as much as I did.
Rating PG 13 Sex and some language
Monday, May 25, 2009
As Long As I Have You
The end of the war finally comes for the Thomas family. Everyone except poor sweet Gene returns home to Utah. Even the Stoltz family is brought to America. At first the book seemed to be wrapping up nicely. Then we come to find that the boys (Alex, Wally and Richard) have varying degrees of PTS (post traumatic stress).
Wally makes it home first. He is shipped around to different hospitals. He is fattened up, checked for diseases, and vaccinated. When he returns home he quickly learns to enjoy life again. He seems even better than the old Wally. Much deeper. Lorainne by some miracle is only engaged, not yet married. Once she sees Wally, she knows that she still loves him. Wally and Lorrainne are engaged and married quickly. Wally begins working for President Thomas as the family parts plant. His life seems set and happy.
Bobbi is the next to return. There are moments that are incredibly tense and weird feeling between Richard and Bobbi. She wants him to want her. (Who doesn't?) He is still suffering with feelings and flashbacks from being blown to high heaven by a Kamikaze pilot. They finally marry and they still have a stiff, strange relationship. At one point Bobbi has a miscarriage. Richard has been working for President Thomas so that he can give Bobbi the lifestyle he thinks is important. Finally Bobbi can't take anymore weirdness and confronts Richard about his pent up feelings and the fact that she thinks he does not enjoy his job. Richard tells Bobbi about some things during the war that he never wanted to share with her. He also agrees to go back to college and do something with his life that he will truly enjoy.
Peter shows up in the same German LDS branch that Alex has just been given a calling in. He finds that Alex is now his brother-in- law and that his family is still alive. It may have been a little contrived and tightly wrapped up at this point, but I am glad that Peter was able to reconnect with his family. Peter is reunited with the Stoltz family and moves to America with them. They live in Salt Lake where President Thomas has made jobs for Heinrich and for Peter. He has also provided a house and a car for them. Peter does not like America as much as the rest of his family. He does not learn the language as quickly either. He wants to return to Germany and help rebuild it. He also has fallen in love with the young daughter of the family that took him in and saved his life.
LaRue is growing up and becoming more serious. She doesn't date and she doesn't seem to care for clothing as much as she did in the past. High school is ending for her and she is able to receive a scholarship to a college out East. President Thomas is concerned for LaRue. He is afraid that once she leaves the valley, her faith with subside and she will be brainwashed by the liberal thinkers she meets. LaRue wants to leave for this reason. The more she ponders, the more she wonders if her faith is really strong enough. She has many doubts which become strikingly more evident when she talks with her friend Cecil and her younger sister Beverly. LaRue hopes that leaving the family will make her rely on her own faith more.
Alex is the last to return home. He has a very hard time adjusting to being a father of a one year old that he has never met. He realizes that he has hardly spent any time with Anna. President Thomas wants to put Alex right back at the head of the family business but Alex has other ideas. Alex suffers with anxiety and anger from the horrors he saw and feels like he committed while in the Army. He refuses to say anything about what occurred while he was away. He is angered that anyone would think he is a hero. Finally Wally and Richard help Alex begin talking about some of the things that are plaguing his mind after Alex freaks out at the plant where he works. Alex realizes that they do understand him and that he can speak to them frankly about his fears and regrets. He gets closer to Anna and his baby Gene. He and Anna are soon expecting another baby. Alex decides that he may stay with his father's business and later enter politics.
If felt like the story wrapped up fairly neatly. I am sure some people find that not really true to life, but there is another series to follow this one. I like feeling like most things have been resolved. I really loved this series and felt like I learned a good deal of history while coming to love the characters.
Rating 5
Rating PG war stories of the violence that occurred to the soldiers.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
To A Child Love Is Spelled T-I-M-E
To a Child LOVE is Spelled T-I-M-E by Mac Anderson & Lance Wubbles
Super short read, which I will probably pick up now and again just to keep me focused on being the right kind of mom. Anderson and Wubbles have compiled great thoughts on parenting along with some fabulous quotes. As I was reading it, I immediately had it pointed out to me that no matter how tired or hurried I am I need to give time to my children. So I let the baby fall asleep on my bare stomach as he is prone to desire, and I read the whole book. Then I promptly got up this morning to read to one of the other little ones.
A favorite quote: "Our greatest danger in life is in permitting the urgent things to crowd out the important. -Charels E. Hummel
I was reminded over and over where to keep my focus. I think I will keep this next to my bed to read frequently. Topics range from responsibility, time, love, listening, marriage relationship, traditions, and discipline.
Quote: "At every step the child should be allowed to meet the real experiences of life; the thorns should never be plucked from his rose." -Ellen Key
Rating 5
Rating G
Zlata's Diary
Zlata began her diary as any other fourth grade girl. She liked junk food, music and her friends. She seems incredibly well spoken for her age. Her world quickly changes from what most of us would find in our everyday life to having her home and country torn by war. War is raging in Sarajevo between Serbs, Croats and Muslims in the early 1990's. Friends and family flee the country or are killed during bombings and shellings.
Zlata is compared to Anne Frank. She is afraid her fate may be the same as Anne's. Because Anne had a name for her diary, Zlata decides to name her's Mimmy.
As I read through this diary, I felt like I was reading the stories of my own people. I couldn't fathom having my normal life ripped at the seams over night. Zlata and her family were starving by winter. They lost water and had to haul it in order to have it on hand. Many times electricity was lost for days and then later rationed to those with priority. Her parents went from a well educated happy couple to thin and terrified. Much of their time was spent hidden in the basement of their apartment building as the shelling raged outside. Family and friends fled the country in order to save themselves. As her early tween years passed, Zlata spent her time in the safer parts of her apartment, mostly her kitchen, or in spotty school attendance when there was no shooting. Where she had once had many friends, language and music lessons, she mostly only had her parents and close neighbors while Bosnia Herzegovina suffered under attack as the 'kids' (politicians) played at their games.
Striking and moving blow by blow of daily life in a war torn country. I would recommend for anyone to read this. Because she was so young, Zlata does not cover the reasons behind the war. She admits not understanding, only wishing for peace. During the same years covered by the diary, I was only a few years older. I cannot remember much from the political history of the time and will be reading more to find out. Having had family leave Yugoslavia in the early 1900's I felt like every picture or detail contained people that could have been me.
Rating 4.5
Rating PG The warring and violence although terrifying to Zlata was not greatly described in horrific detail and therefore not rated R. I would let my 9 year old read this.
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Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Love Comes Softly
I am learning that this author and these books are quite popular and from the picture I assume they are also movies. This series was recommended to me and so I thought I would give it a whirl.
Marty (Martha) is a young bride, in love with her husband Clem and pregnant with his child. They have moved west to settle and make their way. They have no land or home, just a wagon. Clem is killed in an accident with his horse, leaving Marty alone on the frontier. As the neighboring homesteaders come to help bury her husband, Marty sits in shock.
Clark, one of her new neighbors, bashfully and with great price, asks Marty if she will marry him. He knows she is all alone and he cannot offer her shelter if they are not married. Clark as a one year old daughter that he needs a mother for. If Marty agrees they will be married by the visiting preacher before he leaves the settlement. She will be the mother to Missy. Clark will move from the house into a lean-to. He will let Marty leave in the spring and take Missy when the time comes, if she decides not to stay.
Marty of course struggles with the loss of Clem and becoming an instant mother and wife to a stranger. Clark is a good and kind man that is supportive and positive. He is soft spoken and gentle with Marty as she learns about running a home and farm. He teaches her about God, whom she comes to love.
Marty meets the neighbors and learns to love and rely on them. Clark finally realizes that Marty is pregnant with Clem's baby and makes arrangements for her to be cared for when her time comes. Clark takes the baby as his own just as Marty did for Missy. Clark and Marty become increasingly comfortable with each other as they struggle on the western front. They make it through the destruction of their barn and much of their grain. They see through the death of a dear neighbor. Clark and Marty plant a garden and care for their children, adding more rooms onto their home. Finally when their new son nearly dies by accident, the two realize that love has finally come to them.
Sweet story. I can see why they are popular. I sometimes felt like Marty didn't give Clark a chance and thought poorly of him when he was trying to be supportive of their predicament. My biggest complaint is the speech. I'm not saying Oke made a mistake in the way she chose to have her characters talk, but it was very distracting for me to read.
Would be very interested to see the movie version.
Rating 3.5 Sweet
Rating G Great clean read
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Friday, May 1, 2009
Far From Home Children of the Promise #3
The Thomases are still a war torn family. President Thomas is grating on my nerves with his holier than thou attitude.....but I also see where he is coming from.....sometimes. Sister Thomas is standing up to him......go Bea.
Alex is still in the heat of the battle near the front lines. It is winter 1945 and things are miserable for every soldier. Along with the battle the cold is tearing them up. Alex is freezing and fight for most of this book. He loses one of his men that reminds him of Gene........he finally has enough feeling left to cry. Alex finds out at the end of the book that he and Anna will be parents.
Bobbi rarely hears from Richard. She remains close to Ishi (an AJA in her ward) and her children as they also wait for news of Daniel, their husband and father. Bobbi finds herself tiring of Afton (her friend and roommate). Afton has found love in Sam, a Hawaiian. She leads him on for awhile knowing that he feels deeply for her but that she will not marry him because of their racial differences. Bobbi learns that Richard's ship has been sunk near the Philippines. She waits for so long to hear from him that she fears he is dead. Richard is finally rescued and sent back to the hospital at Pearl Harbor where Bobbi is stationed. He and Bobbi decide they do love each other and want to get married. Bobbi will soon be leaving on a naval hospital ship.
Wally is a POW in Japan. Conditions are still terrible for him. He is working in coal mines. The Japanese are under pressure to mine the coal and are horrendous to the prisoners. Wally and the other POW's suffer from extreme conditions, little food, disease, unsanitary situations, and the wrath of the Japanese. Wally struggles to get his hatred under control.
LaRue is only fifteen but acting much older. She has begun volunteering at the USO. She dances and flirts with the soldiers leading them to believe she is not just fifteen. Ned, a soldier from Hill Field falls in love with LaRue. Despite President Thomas' urging and harsh criticism LaRue cannot get enough of the attention she is attracting from the older boys. When Ned professes his love and asks LaRue to marry him before he is shipped out to the battle, LaRue has to come clean about her age. Ned is enraged but he loves her so much he asks her to wait for him while he is at war. She agrees to write to him but will not become engaged. She is also flirting like wild fire with the boys her age. LaRue begins to realize that she doesn't like what she is turning into.
The Stoltz's are separated. Anna and her mother are in London. Father has joined the Allied forces and is spying for then against the Nazi's in Germany. He is also hopeful that he will be able to locate Peter. Peter is caught by the Gestapo. He runs. In an effort to hide from then he finds that he must join the army even though he hates the Nazi's and what they are doing to Germany and the other nations. Conditions for the German troops fighting the Russians are horrid. Peter and the other boys are so young. They are freezing and starving. Peter and his last friend are sick and wounded. They finally make it to a hospital where Peter's friend Hans dies. Peter can take no more. He goes AWOL and joins fleeing refugees in hopes that he will not be caught. He is determined to never kill again even if it means forfeiting his own life.
This is another great addition to the already great series. I have loved watching Wally and the other POW's struggle with their determination to quell their hatred and find a way to forgive the Japanese. Also Alex and Peter are able to show that even though a nation may be wicked, not all of the people in the nation are. Despite desperate times and evil in the world, good can still be found in individuals.
Rating 5
Rating PG 13 War, violence, violent death, injury, hatred.
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Friday, April 24, 2009
In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms
In Praise of Stay-at-Home Moms by Dr. Laura Schlessinger
Dr. Laura's newest book is here just in time to give a boost to all full time mommies. This book is not full of statistics and science, just enough emotion to bring realization that there is nothing and no one that can top mommy love.
Obviously I enjoyed the book because it is upon the foundation of the mother relationship that I have built much of my recent life. Dr. Laura's anecdotal ways illustrates the important role mommy plays in the life of her WHOLE family. I felt like I was getting a big old pat on the back. I know the choice I have made is the right one for my family. Do I need validation from anyone else......even if I like you? NO. I don't care what anyone else thinks. I did however like to commiserate with other people by way of reading this book, that feel the same way. My reasons for staying at home are pure unadulterated selfishness. I will not allow the sweet moments of my family to be grasped by the hands of anyone else. I will receive all of the kisses, the hugs, the laughs and tears. I will receive all of the cuddles and diapers and EVERY piece of laundry. I was born to be a mommy and wife first. I have forever to do something else that doesn't matter to me as much. So thanks Dr. Laura.
Rating 4
Rating G
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The Miraculous Journey of Edward Tulane
First off, fabulous illustrations!
Edward is a china rabbit that stands nearly three feet tall. He belongs to a child named Abilene Tulane. He has a wonderful wardrobe of expensive clothing. Abilene loves Edward. Edward however loves himself. His favorite time of year is winter, when the dark comes early. Edward likes to look at the window and instead of seeing outside, when it becomes dark he can see his own reflection. He thinks he is quite a sensational rabbit.
Abilene's grandmother Pellagrina sees through Edward. She knows he doesn't pay attention to anything except himself and his clothing. She knows he does not love Abilene back. One night just before Abilene is to set off on a ship with her parents, Pelligrina tells Edward and Abilene a warning fairytale.
Aboard ship Edward is accidentally thrown overboard. He sinks to the bottom of the sea. Nearly a year later he is washed to the surface and caught in a fishing net. Thus begins Edward's journey through the hands of many that will love him. As Edward is stripped of his fine clothing and comfort he comes to find that love is all he has left, and it is all that matters.
He lives with the fisherman and his old wife. He becomes a hobo and travels the country for years. Edward does brief time as a scarecrow. He is owned and loved by a sweet and dying four year old. Edward travels to a city with a small boy and becomes his puppet, helping him earn money for food. Edward is beaten and broken. He is given new life by a doll restorer and sits in a doll shop for many years. Finally the circle of life curves to meet itself and Edward is reunited with Abilene.
Edward witnesses love, loss, child abuse, death, evil hearts, heartless people, lost souls and comes to find he can feel love.
Rating 5 Heart wrenching! I cried just like I did the first time I read the Velveteen Rabbit when I was 8.
Rating G I say this is a clean read although there is an instance of child abuse (hitting). I still read this to my own children because I wanted them to understand the important message of the book.
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